Focusing on being an intentional wife during February…..the
month that we associate with love….was completely unintentional (pun totally
intended!) It just happens that after God,
the next important area in my life that I want to focus my intention and
attention on is my husband.
When
I think about being intentional to Mike I think about loving him on purpose,
doing things for him that makes him realize that he is on my mind and in my
heart, that he is a priority in my life.
I think that Mike and I are in the stage of marriage where raising our
little family takes every bit of energy that we have. He is busy making a living in order to
provide an income as a Ranch Broker as well as helping his dad run the family
ranch, and making sure that he carves out time to spend with each of the kids; and
I spend every last resource of mental, physical and emotional energy on making
sure that we all have clean clothes, a clean space to call home, healthy meals
that everyone likes (an endeavor that I have come to the conclusion is almost
impossible!), make sure that everyone is up to date on dentist and doctor
appointments, as well as helping with ranch work…..etc., etc., etc. My point is that life is busy, and why is it
that the thing that ends up being the last priority is our spouse?
This
is where I feel that God is really convicting my heart. I have fallen short in making my husband feel
that he is priority….that he is deserving of my intention and attention. And I desire to change that because the fact
of the matter is that I want my marriage to thrive and not just survive. Mike
and I are committed to each other, we are in this for the long-haul, and there
is no question in either of our minds about that. Almost 20 years ago we stood before family
and friends and God and we promised to love each other for better or worse, in
sickness and in health, for richer or poorer.
We made a covenant that is more binding than anything else in our
lives. We’ve survived some hard things
in those 20 years, and have come out stronger and closer to one another because
of those struggles. What is tough is
dealing with the tiny, seemingly insignificant and mundane details of the day
in and day out parts of our lives. Those
are the “little foxes” that work to destroy our marriage.
If I
don’t work on loving my husband with intention then those little, seemingly
insignificant problems will grow into big and very significant ones. Here’s the deal with loving intentionally…..it
requires being selfless, it means putting my husband’s needs above my own. This is so good in theory but soooo hard in
reality! I do know that the more that I give
of myself to be intentional in showing love to Mike, it goes a long way in making
all of those little foxes disappear!
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